I’ve been getting flooded with messages and questions about how to be direct, how far should a guy go with his demands, etc. So, I thought I’d respond in one simple post. No, I’m not addressing all of you personally, message by message, but that’s the first thing I want to get across. I do what I want to do, regardless of what everyone else wants me to do. You guys are sitting there with your little scripts or philosophies or whatever, and you’re forgetting one crucial thing: authenticity. As long as you’re trying to mimic the words or philosophies of someone else, you will never come across as authentic.

Don’t ask me if you’re being too direct, because in doing so, you’re behaving very sheepishly. What do YOU want to do? What do YOU want to say? Those are two rules I live by. Even if it isn’t necessarily the most logical thing to do, I do or say it anyway. Look at one of the recent stories that I put up. I knew that there was a low chance that the girl was going to kiss me in front of all of her friends, but I went for it anyway. Why? Because it was what I wanted to do at that point in time. Period.

I don’t waste my time worrying about if something is direct or indirect. I simply am. And this adds a layer of authenticity that women are attracted to. The reason that you aren’t getting the girl isn’t because you’re too direct or indirect, it’s simply because you come off as inauthentic. In other words, the way that you present yourself isn’t in line with the words coming out of your mouth. Some guys are comfortable going up to a girl and immediately requesting a sexual act of some kind, while others aren’t, but they try to force it anyway--with little or no success. It’s OK to experiment, but do what YOU feel comfortable doing, and not what someone else wants you to do. If you feel more comfortable having a casual conversation and asking for a date after getting to know the girl, then do it. Don’t keep forcing awkward scripts and philosophies if you’ve tried it multiple times and still feel uncomfortable with it.

Why does one guy have success being vulgar while other men don’t? Because he is being authentic, and when others do it, they aren’t. Don’t go up to random girls telling them that you want to stick your dick in their ass or whatever if you don’t feel comfortable doing it. I can guarantee that you’ll fail every single time, even if some other guy has success every single time. Just because some other guy feels comfortable doing it, doesn’t mean you should do it as well. It’s all about what you feel comfortable doing. I’m not recommending that you let women manipulate you, but if you’re a well churched nice guy, it makes no sense for you to walk up to them and ask for sex within the first sentence or two.

The name of the game is authenticity, not go out there and say the most vulgar thing you can think of or copy someone else word for word just because they tell you to. And it’s not how direct or indirect you are. As long as you stay true to yourself, you will always come off as authentic and genuine, and that’s what women want: A real man.